Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies

Learn to: Grasp the basics of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) Work more effectively with the emotions essential to lasting love Mend complex issues in your relationship A down-to-earth guide to one of the world's leading approaches to couple therapy! Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) helps you find deeper satisfaction and more effective ways to connect with your partner at a profound emotional level by teaching you powerful ways to transform negative patterns and to build a stronger bond. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies will introduce you to this ground-breaking therapy, which has been consistently proven to be one of the most successful therapies for couples wanting to improve their relationships and resolve chronic couple distress and dissatisfaction. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies is your one-stop resource to this increasingly popular approach to healing relationships. Start with the basics of EFT — understand the power of emotion in your relationship, and identify the three levels of emotional experience Delve into the intricacies of your relationship — find the common patterns of couple conflict and the roles you play within them Develop a solution together — become familiar with how to find intimacy in your relationship in new ways Identify when you may need couple therapy — know which questions to ask therapists before you make an appointment Open the book and find: The fundamentals of emotionally focused couple therapy Exercises to try at home with your partner Ways to stay away from negative patterns and roles The three fighting styles, and how to work through them Tips on dealing with infidelity How to find an EFT therapist that's right for you Ten myths about sex

Introduction  1 Part I: Essentials of Emotionally Focused Therapy  5 Chapter 1: The Basics of Emotionally Focused Therapy 7 Chapter 2: Understanding the Power of Emotion in Relationships 17 Chapter 3: Organizing Your Emotional World 39 Chapter 4: Identifying the Three Levels of Emotional Experience 59 Part II: Emotionally Focused Therapy in Action: Moving from Problems to Patterns  73 Chapter 5: Finding Common Patterns of Conflict 75 Chapter 6: Finding Common Roles in Conflict 101 Chapter 7: Working Toward Fighting Less and Feeling Better 121 Part III: Finding Intimacy in New Ways  145 Chapter 8: Seeing through Withdrawing Eyes 147 Chapter 9: Seeing through Pursuing Eyes 159 Chapter 10: Facing Fears and Finding Each Other 171 Chapter 11: Overcoming Common Blocks 185 Chapter 12: Dealing with Infidelity 207 Part IV: Moving Forward Together  229 Chapter 13: Finding New Solutions to Old Problems 231 Chapter 14: Securing Your Future 255 Chapter 15: Working with a Couple Therapist 271 Part V: The Part of Tens  285 Chapter 16: Ten Questions to Ask a Therapist Before You Make an Appointment 287 Chapter 17: Ten Rituals to Bring You Closer293 Chapter 18: Ten Myths about Emotion and Relationships 301 Chapter 19: Ten Myths about Sex 309 Appendix: Resources  317 Index  321

Brent Bradley, PhD, is Associate Professor of Family Therapy at the University of Houston-Clear Lake, and president of The Couple Zone (www.couplezone.org). Dr. Bradley is a certified emotionally focused couple therapist, supervisor, and trainer. James Furrow, PhD, is Professor of Marital and Family Therapy at the Fuller Graduate School of Psychology. Dr. Furrow is executive director of the Los Angeles Center for EFT and a certified emotionally focused couple therapist, supervisor, and trainer.